by Howard Dippold
About: John Sky
“Before sleeping last night, I had a feeling of love for the earth, moon and the sun, especially the earth, our true mother. Also, how wonderful and happy I felt to be living.”
This is a passage from John Sky’s journal, dated 5/7/94; he passed on the following year. John was a friend of mine, as well as all his extended “family” friends in San Francisco. He adored his friends and was there for all whenever they needed him. John moved here from New Hampshire, to seek out his future. He left a family who did not approve of him being gay, and even changed his last name from Bucheaner, to Sky; don’t blame him there. John was a unique spiritual individual, full of love and always ready to have fun. He had strong opinions, and had been known to say, whenever a celebrity or friend died, “they would be forgotten in two weeks” …Well, his extended family wished to prove him wrong!
We were looking for a safe and comfortable place to share our grief.
Having found out about the Grove, in its infancy (this was 1995), we decided to pool our money and plant two trees in Golden Gate Park; one maple tree for New Hampshire, and a redwood tree for his “new” home in California. In addition, we decided to have his name engraved in the “Circle of Friends,” in the National AIDS Memorial Grove. His name is one of the first, in the forth row.
Two of John’s greatest joys in his life were his friends and just being alive and feeling the earth beneath his feet. He enjoyed those, for far too short a time.
With the existence of the Grove, we are saying that he was not “forgotten” in two weeks.
We miss you John Sky.
Yours, Howard Dippold